Bravery Beats Avoidance

Dear daughters,

I haven’t written you in a while. I’ve been in a phase where I’ve been exploring a lot of things with the Universe. I’ve been working through a lot for myself.

But I’ve missed writing to you, too. Because through all of what I’ve been going through, I’ve distilled some lessons that I think I must pass on to you.

In this letter, I need to talk to you about avoidance. I know that’s a big word you don’t understand right now, but I hope that by the time you can read this, it will make more sense.

Avoidance is running from your problems instead of addressing them. It’s letting fear take over and shutting down instead of stepping up.

I know that can be really hard – facing your problems instead of just hoping they go away. But I can tell you what is even harder: dealing with the consequences of those problems when they catch up to you after running.

Because they always do.

Problems that aren’t addressed fester. They grow. They evolve. And once they reach a certain point, the damage they cause may be irreparable.

I’m not saying this to scare you, girls. I’m teaching you about avoidance so that you can learn how to respond to life in another way – with bravery.

Bravery doesn’t mean that you’re never scared. It means that you are scared but you take action anyway. The fear is still there and it will try to convince you to stay small, to stay comfortable. Bravery says “no way, José – we don’t play small.”

To be brave is to see that you have a problem and to take it on. To ask for help. To work through it. To find solutions.

When you are brave, you slay problems rather than letting them slowly overpower you.

I invite you to be brave, girls. I invite you to step away from avoidance.

Please know that I am here to help you do that, and I always will be. Sometimes I might even overstep or push you harder than you think I should if I can see the avoidance swallowing you up. Know that I will never push you further than I know you are capable of being pushed. Know that I am always on your side.

I love you my dears. Be brave.

XO – Mom