I’m Breaking a Pattern Here

Dear Universe,

I still have patterns to break. Shitty, messy, heartbreaking patterns.

And unfortunately I am smack dab in the middle of learning to break one now.

It’s a classic – the good old falling for someone who isn’t emotionally available thing. If you had a nickel, right?

The good news is that the pattern is breaking and as devastating as it is to say goodbye to the feelings and the potential and all of that, I still said the goodbye.

To be fair it wasn’t entirely my own choice, but I’m not going to beg and that is significant progress compared to what I’ve been doing for… well, probably my whole life.

Before I would have explained. Convinced. Fought.

And sure I probably have done my fair share of being honest and making sure my intentions were clear (also new) but I didn’t fight like I would have liked to in my head or like I would have done in say any previous relationship ever including my failed marriage.

I’m not doing that again. Not because I don’t care – I care way too much – but because I will no longer fight for someone that isn’t going to fight back for me.

I just don’t have it in me anymore. Nor should I ever have in the first place.

If someone wants to be in my life moving forward, they have to meet me halfway. They have to put in the effort to make it work, too. I won’t be the only one steering the ship this time.

And if someone is not in a place to make that effort? That’s completely OK. I can still hold a place for them in my heart and not make it mean anything about me anymore.

I would have before. I would have told myself that I just wasn’t worth the effort – that I wasn’t good enough.

I know now that isn’t true. Life isn’t that simple and there can be a lot of truths happening all at once. I am enough regardless of someone else’s circumstances or actions.

So, Universe, I’m doing my best here. It hurts like hell. I don’t like it. I would have chosen something different.

But you’ve made it abundantly clear to me that things work out the way they are supposed to, and I trust that all of this will, too, as long as I keep staying true to myself and growing.

If there are more patterns I need to break, just send them my way. I’m getting pretty fucking good at this shit.

XO – Bailee

August 17, 2026