That kid can do it – why can’t mine?
🔠 So little Joey in daycare can write his ABCs but your kid can barely sing the alphabet song yet.
👟Or little Sammy can tie his own shoes and your kid can’t even get his shoes on the right feet.
🚶♀️➡️Or little Tina started walking a month ago and your kid is still happily crawling around.
When our kids don’t perform as well or develop as quickly as other children, we tend to take the blame on ourselves. We must be failing as moms if our kids aren’t keeping up with the Jones or excelling.
I get it, but it doesn’t have to be this way. 🥰
Here are some things to remember when the failure feelings start creeping in:
🩷 Everyone develops at a different pace. Remember the word YET. Just because your kid can’t tie his shoes YET doesn’t mean he’s going to grow up and never be able to tie his shoes. Everything comes in good time.
🩷 Everyone has his or her own strengths. Maybe Joey can’t write his letters yet, but he knows the scientific name for every dinosaur in his books. That’s impressive, too!
🩷 Feedback is neutral – it does NOT need to have meaning. For example, if the teacher tells you that your daughter should start practicing walking more, it doesn’t mean that you are failing at teaching her how to walk. It doesn’t mean the teacher thinks you’re a terrible mom. It just means you now have a goal of practicing to walk more with your kid. That’s it!
🩷 We all have room for improvement. If we all could do everything perfectly right when we think we should be able to do it, well, we wouldn’t be human – we’d be robots! Remember that none of us is perfect and we all always have things we can improve on, our kids included.
I hope these tips helped to challenge the belief that you’re a failure when you start comparing your children to others. You’re absolutely not! ❤️
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Screw comparison, Mama. You and your kids are rocking it! 🤘
XO – Bailee